3 tops we defined:
Patriarchy & Sexism
Behaving
- Men are supposed to make the first step in sexual approach
- Men is the strong gender
- →shows the 1st man
2nd woman
System
- Power lies in the hand of the man
- Economic
- Political/Decision
- Religion (killed female; spiritual figures)
Male Socialisation
- Being taught to act like a man
- Hiding the emotions
- Sports
- Taking space
- Expectation of intelligence through the models (→Artists, Philosophers)
- Competition/pressure
- Persistent socialisation
- Sexual pressure
Male Privileges
- masculine history & presence
- societal expectation to not participate in care – work
- perceived to be “smarter” and “competent”
- perceived to be in leading role
- given more space
- societal acceptance to take more space than others
- physical presence (in public)
- no fear of sexual violence
- strong role models
- don’t need to think about pregnancy or contraception
- relatively raised expectations
h1. * we can decide if we want to think about sexism/male privilege or not
We tried to find examples from our experiences (RoR/Not RoR):
Expamles
- Being raised to play soccer (story behind…)
- RoR story (but also very much an everyday experience): 2 skilled persons were present but only the male was asked about stuff
- Consent about 1 sexual activity doesn’t automatically include other activities
- Expectations from yourself (or what you think society expects from you) and lack of talking (leads to things like harassment)
- Adapting a specific masculine behaviour because of certain (but common) situations (like feeling unsure of yourself → you base your following behaviour in sexist normatives)
- Men repeat content unnecessarily in groups (obviously RoR related too)
RoR Examples
- easier for CIS-males to take roles in RoR (e.g. Maestra)
- Taking notes is mostly done by women
- Instrument balance (e.g. surdos)
- Mansplaining in plenary
- for example: summarizing/ending a top because of a louder voice and not using hand signals)
- Men ‘forcefully’ correcting other players playing unasked
h1. * Certain men reproduce more toxic masculinity (and less openness)
Finally we also came up with some approaches and ideas:
Approaches & Ideas
- Asking more questions – speaking less about yourself
- Actively talking about emotions
- Observe emotions of others (but don’t assume ;))
- Practice critical masculinity for example in your flat (eg. texts on the toilet door; having conversations)
- Stop reproducing sexist behaviours because you think you are in a safe space and dont need to be a role model to others
Approaches & Ideas (RoR related)
- Personally approaching people who reproduce forms of toxic masculinity
- Speaking out loud if people behave badly (we even have the gender-sign for it)
- FLINT-only Rehearsals
h1. * Find ways to get more FLINT-people to maestrate and to take the lead in general
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